Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD


Posted by Julias Jaded Jester ® , Aug 10,2001,00:34   MetroBlab

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Rape is a personal problem that cries out for a political solution. The solution to our cultural problems of sexual violence lies not only in the treatment of individual victims and offenders, but also in changing our culture. Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism. Sex is currently associated with violence, power, domination and status. The incidence of rape is increasing because our culture's destructive messages about sexuality are increasing.

Rape hurts us all, not just the victims. Rape keeps all women in a state of fear about all men. We must constantly be vigilant.

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Men are fearful for their women friends and family and aware that women are afraid of them. A male student complained that he hated rape. He said, "When I walk across campus after dark, I can see women tense up. I want to reassure them that I'm not a rapist." Another said, "I haven't dated a girl yet who trusts men. Every girl I've cared about has been hurt by some guy. They are afraid to get close. It's so much work to prove I'm not a jerk."

But mostly rape damages young women. They become post traumatic stress victims. They experience all the symptoms-- depression, anger, fear, recurrent dreams and flashbacks. The initial reaction is usually shock, denial and dissociation. Later comes anger and self blame for not fighting back. Younger women who are raped are more fearful. Their invisible shield of invulnerability has been shattered. Forty one percent of rape victims expect to be raped again; 30 percent contemplate suicide; 31 percent go into therapy; 22 percent take self defense courses and 82 percent say that they ARE

PERMANENTLY DAMAGED....

Our daughters need time and protected places in which to grow and develop socially, emotionally, intellectually and physically. They need safe places they can go and learn about themselves and others. They need places where they can take risks and make mistakes without fearing for their lives. They need to be valued for their personhood, not their bodies.----

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Our Adolescent Girls, by Mary Pipher, PHD...page 230




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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Julias Jaded Jester
Posted by Ian ® , Aug 10,2001,12:06   MetroBlab

Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.

You say "cannibalism" like it's a bad thing.


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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Ian
Posted by WTG , Aug 10,2001,19:19   MetroBlab

I can't believe you would eat another monkey!!! Bad Ian! Bad!!!

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Posted by Angie , Aug 10,2001,15:19   MetroBlab

If I were a cow...I'd be a cannibal...BUT! What if I were a cow and drank milk?....What would I be then?....Assuming I didn't eat steak but only drank milk....Something to think about huh?

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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Angie
Posted by Gene Harrogate ® , Aug 10,2001,15:40   MetroBlab

I believe the term is Lacto-Beevarian (though I suppose it could be Beevan if you're really strict about it).

~Gene Harrogate


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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Gene Harrogate
Posted by Angie , Aug 10,2001,15:46   MetroBlab

So, if I were a cow and I drank milk AND I was a cannibal then I would be a Lacto-BeevarianCannibal or would I just be a Lacto-Cannibal? Some information is just good to know, ya know?



Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD

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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Angie
Posted by Senile Blabber With A Reading Problem , Aug 10,2001,19:22   MetroBlab

What? Bavaria has a lactating cow?

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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Senile Blabber With A Reading Problem
Posted by Angie , Aug 10,2001,20:50   MetroBlab

And a Cannibal no less! THe horror!


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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Angie
Posted by Gene Harrogate ® , Aug 10,2001,15:51   MetroBlab

So, if I were a cow and I drank milk AND I was a cannibal...

Then you would still be a cow. And really, who wants to be a cow?

~Gene Harrogate


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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Gene Harrogate
Posted by Angie , Aug 10,2001,16:01   MetroBlab

Good Point Gene. Thank you.:-)

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Excerpt From Reviving Ophelia, by Mary Pipher, PHD -- Ian
Posted by Belle ® , Aug 10,2001,15:12   MetroBlab

I love cannibals. They are just like everyone else.

Belle