question for the masses


Posted by JoAnne ® , Sep 07,2003,21:45   MetroBlab
I swore I would never ask a relationship question on here but here I am. I love my boyfriend with all my heart. he loves me too. We have been seeing each other for almost a year. He travels for a living. he is gone for a month at a time, occassionally longer. I have traveled with him before, have no jealousy issues. He comes home for a week or two at a time. There is no other woman and I know he is just working but I miss him and question how we might raise a family together. he tells me I will get used to it. I do not want to change him. I do want him to look for other work that will keep him home. Is this too much to ask. He thinks it is.

JoAnne

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 question for the masses

Re: question for the masses -- JoAnne
Posted by hard69rock ® , Sep 09,2003,03:15   MetroBlab
You said you don't want to change him, then you say you want him to find another job. That would be changing him. Accept the job, it is part of him.
question for the masses

Re: question for the masses -- JoAnne
Posted by Scott ® , Sep 08,2003,00:34   MetroBlab
Just give it some time you will most likely start to love the time he's gone as much as the return.
from a mass

Re: question for the masses -- JoAnne
Posted by lilamy ® , Sep 07,2003,22:38   MetroBlab
I would suggest that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about what they would do if they were you. They are not you nor are they your signnificant other.
Relationships are about a lot - including compromise. Lots and lots of parents raise children alone. The guys who have been in Afghanistan for over a year have families and children. Military folks are often gone a month or more at a time. L Talk. Communicate. Find a common ground if you can. If you cannot, then only you can decide what is right for you.

Be well,
lilamy

--modified at Sun, Sep 07, 2003, 22:40:04

from a mass - well I tried to edit it !

Re: from a mass -- lilamy
Posted by lilamy ® , Sep 07,2003,22:42   MetroBlab
I don't want to leave out others who are seperated for long times from their families as well - long-haul truckers, oil derrick workers, lots of others that I can't think to name right now.